“The other day I read a Facebook post by a friend of mine who felt slighted by a worker in a public place. Hours after the slight occurred she wrote how she would be on the lookout for this worker to ensure retribution at the proper time in the future.
I thought to myself, how sad that she would use her time searching to locate and return the displeasure instead of dropping the less than glorious event and moving on. It was clear it occupied her day, then her evening. She posted on this for a while.
Let’s use another similar example. Someone cuts you off on your morning commute. You stew about it all day, sharing it with coworkers and friends. The ‘ass’ on the roadway story you repeat at dinner with family. Off to the computer and FB where you recount it.
You Don’t Go Uphill Thinking Downhill Thoughts
Guess what? You start getting engagement. Dozens of others chime in saying what a jerk the ass was. Some call you an ass. Bickering ensues. Scores of likes and comments later, all you have succeeded in doing is keeping, escalating and amplifying a negative event.
Long after it should be forgotten, you and others go on about it. On Facebook a month later someone ‘likes’ comments on your post. It can end up in your memories 1,2, 5 years later. This minor negative event is alive now for perpetuity in FB and etched into your being.
This is the great distraction and harm of Facebook. it is a venting palace, a land out of balance. It is skewed to the negative and what is wrong. Engagement gets people going and complaining, yet, little gets done because people waste time arguing on FB. The FB effect.
You Get What You Focus On – What You Focus On Expands
Seems important, this event, that occurred. It isn’t. You amplified a meaningless event and created a hoopla around it. Others feel sorry for you. I feel sorry for you that you created this entire circus because of slight by a someone somewhere. It could be otherwise.
Get it? The world is filled with amazingly wonderful and happy joyous people, and moments. Instead of us using a technology to advance us and take us higher people frequently use it to take us lower. I know I have. Instead of sinking into a lower place how about using it to uplift us. Find the good, emphasize that. Put your attention there. It is far more rewarding in the long term. It is far healthier. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes
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