Here is the article that I discovered that made me aware my work was showing up in other’s work. Today there are even more versions available in other popular books. A while back someone phoned men to tell me ‘hey there’s a whole chapter in the book by ________ on your questions work but without crediting you. Eventually, I got around to reading that chapter and YEP. I remember when his people came into my workshops.
Some have listened to my programs and just lifted the material and named it something else. A couple even used my examples and analogies without bothering to disguise them much. Once in a while I found them using them in the exact sequence I originally presented the work. Since then, they either gotten more covert or added some examples from their work with this. While it’s not cool, it is cool. Here’s what IS cool!
My work has gone around the world in various forms under different names reaching people and transforming lives I may not have ever reached. A few of the people reworking my work have made millions from it. That told me it worked and is powerful. Again, it is all good. People benefit. Sadly, while they reproduced my work they missed the very heart of it. Much of what is present here is my work as explained by the others.
A recent version in the last year or two still has not discovered what makes it most valuable and powerful. I was surprised to discover this article. Enjoy a bit of lineage. There is a principle that makes it most effective. That said, just asking questions IS beneficial. Obviously, I had nothing to do with the original notion of asking questions. That’s been around and worked on for eons. Enjoy a little history and info.
“In 2015 I stumbled across this article on the web. Sometime, in the past years the site went away, including the article. I located it the other day doing a ‘wayback’ search. I include it here, because it was about my work from the 80’s and how to direct your mind.
Here it is the entire article: Positive Questions for Powerful Change Posted on January 6, 2012 by Susan K. Minarik
What if you could trick your brain into making all the right choices for you? What if you sneakily set it up to choose the apple over the chocolate cake, of to stick out its tongue at your impulse to put that tempting trinket on your credit card?
Way back in 1980, Master NLP trainer Rex Steven Sikes, discovered a simple way that anyone can use to direct their thinking toward finding the solutions they were after. He called it Directed Questions™. Unfortunately, the method never got the attention it deserved.
Then, in 2008, Noah St. John stumbled on the method one morning in his shower when he was mulling over the lack of result he was getting using affirmations to create new behaviors. He called it Afformations™ and has been making a great living telling people about it ever since.
In that same year, motivational trainer Kevin Hogan picked up the idea and gave it the descriptive—and non-trademarked—name “positive affirmative questions.”
That’s what I call it, too; I abbreviate it as PAQ . And because it’s one of the easiest and most powerful tools you can add to your personal growth toolkit, I want to share it with you today.
So, What’s a Positive Affirmative Question?
Simply put, a PAQ is a question you ask yourself in order to focus your brain on a positive behavior or attitude that you want to create or expand.
Their power comes from your mind’s need to search for answers to questions that you pose to it, and from the fact that, unlike affirmations, PAQs don’t give your brain something to argue with.
Let me give you an example. Suppose you want to lose weight. You could bombard your brain with an affirmative statement like “I enjoy eating healthy foods and exercising every day.” That might help. But if it were true, you would be eating healthily and exercising already. So some part of your brain considers it a lie—or, at best, a wish—and refuses to see it as a reality.
But suppose, instead, you asked yourself, “How many ways can I find to eat healthier foods?” and “How can I add more activity to my day?” how do you think your brain would react?
Here are a few more examples of positive affirmative questions:
(Note: when you say “I wonder…” you’re really asking a question.)
- Why do I feel so good about myself now?
- What’s good about this situation?
- How quickly can I finish this project and do a fantastic job?
- I wonder how soon I can reach my ideal weight?
- How many ways can I find to stay within my budget?
- What are some fun ways that I can learn this faster?
- Why am I seeing so many great traits in my partner now?
- Why am I feeling so much more confident now?
- What’s good about this situation?
Why Positive Affirmative Questions Work
Rex Sikes, the fellow who calls these Directed Questions™, explains that questions direct the mind. They send it inexorably on a search for answers. They focus you on what you want and help you discover avenues for getting it. And what we focus on becomes dominant in our lives.
Sikes claims they have 300-400 times more power than affirmations do.
Because PAQs are rooted in positive assumptions about your life rather than negative ones, they’re empowering. They utilize your imagination and creativity and put your focus on you want instead of what you lack. “Why am I so fortunate now?” “How can I slim down and enjoy the process?”
A third reason for their power is that the answers come from within you. They’re from the expert who knows you best, not some outside authority or guru. So they feel more authentic, making it natural for you to accept the answers they generate for you.
When PAQs Backfire
Unlike affirmations, PAQs have a very low backfire potential. When you use affirmations your mind has that tendency to argue with you. If you say “I easily and confidently close sales,” your brain is likely to scoff, “You do not, you big coward. You fumble and bumble and blow it every time.”
Well, on rare occasions—and I do mean rare– some PAQs can backfire, too. It’s happened to me. “Why am I so happy now?” was a signature question for me a couple years ago. It’s what motivated me to start my blog, High on Happiness and I use it to this day.
Sometimes, in the beginning, when I was in a particular funk and I asked it, a grumpy inner voice would growl at me, “I’m not happy. I’m a miserable wretch.” And you know what I did? I refused to accept that as an answer and growled right back, “I know you’re not happy. But why am I so happy now?” And my brain would, Oh!” as if it understood now, and go in search of things that were delightful, or comforting, or satisfying in my world.
Of course I was a newbie with PAQs at the time. If I had understood them as well then as I do now, I would have known to rephrase the question: “What are some ways I can begin to feel happier now?” or “I wonder how many things I can find to feel happier about?”
I could even have used a PAQ to find a better question. “What are some questions I could ask to help myself feel happier now?”
How to Put Positive Affirmative Questions To Work for You
By now, you probably see how easy it is to create PAQs. First, you decide what you want—a change in attitude, a new approach to something, a behavior change, even a tangible acquisition.
Next, you form a question based around it, using words like “why,” “what,” “how,” “how many,” “how quickly” and “I wonder.”
Finally, you take action on the answers—not only because the answers will lead to success, but to reinforce the whole process and prove its worth to you.
Sikes recommends that you think up questions for yourself every morning and every night, and that you practice with the method for 21 days in a row. If you decide to adopt this as your positivity practice for the month, I guarantee that one month from now, you’ll see concrete evidence of this little tool’s mighty power.
You can start right now. Ask yourself, “How many ways can I show Susan how much I liked this article?” [end of article]
Well, there you have it. I must point out that this is an article about my work. There is much that is missed. Still, asking any positively phrased questions is useful. That is why I post this article. Others have come along since I shared my work, and since this article.
The others mentioned in the article too, missed important nuances about the work. They missed the heart of how to use questions to direct the mind, but they got that asking questions is important.
I released much of my work and information on the Inet in articles, in my live workshops and many of my audio programs. The ‘Ultimate NLP Home Study Program™’ which is Mind Design™ based, is still available and will be offered on my new platform. Get it.
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