“Have you ever played connect the dots? You start at one dot and follow the line to the next, until an image slowly emerges. Now, imagine doing the same thing with your life. What if you could look back and see how every significant event and every choice has led you to where you are right now? Steve Jobs pointed out you could connect the dots looking backward, but you aren’t able to see what they become looking forward.

His quote is ‘You can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something – your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.’ Before we look at trust for the future, let’s look back at connecting the dots and how it affects the future.

Each moment, each decision you’ve made, has been a steppingstone to where you stand today. It may have seemed like there were countless possible outcomes at each moment, but the truth is, the choices you made—consciously or unconsciously, brought you exactly here. Right where you’re supposed to be. I’m not suggesting that your life is predestined or controlled by some external force. Get this, I really am not suggesting that.

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Instead, consider the choices you’ve made, the events you’ve lived through, and the paths you’ve taken. Can you see how they’ve connected, step by step, to create your present reality? Let me share a personal example. Years ago, I went through a breakup with someone I deeply loved. At the time, it felt like the end of my world. I couldn’t imagine a future without her. But looking back now, that breakup was a blessing in disguise.

If that relationship hadn’t ended, I would have never met the woman who became the mother of my incredible children. I can’t imagine my life without them. Sure, maybe in another timeline, I could have been happy with someone else. But the fact is, I didn’t. Life unfolded the way it did, and now I have two children whom I adore. That heartbreak, which seemed so devastating in the moment, was leading me to something greater.

Here’s an unexpected twist. Some years ago, I was involved in a car accident that left me laid up in a part of the country that wasn’t my home. It was a tough time, but it turned out to be one of the most significant events in my life. Why? Because during that period of recovery, I met the woman who would become the mother of my children. If that accident hadn’t occurred, my kids wouldn’t exist. Life has a way of offering events.

DEVELOP THE POSITIVE ATTITUDE, MINDSET AND BELIEFS TO TRANSFORM YOURSELF

Some you control, some you don’t, but how you respond to them shapes everything that comes next. After my recovery, I chose to pursue the relationship. Had I made a different choice and returned home, my entire life would have turned out differently. The point is, life is like a giant connect-the-dots puzzle. Each event, each decision, is another dot, leading to the next.  But we don’t always see the big picture right away.

We don’t know what image is forming. We can control how we choose to view each moment and what we learn from it. Yes, I could look back and feel regret over decisions I didn’t make or paths I didn’t take BUT what good would that do? The past is the past. No amount of guilt or regret will change it. Learn from it. I’ve come to learn there’s no such thing as a good or bad decision. There are only decisions and outcomes. Intended or not.

Because something doesn’t work out the way I might hope doesn’t mean I’ve made a bad decision. I decided given the information I had at the time. I did the best I could, and it turned out differently than I might have wanted. Nothing bad about that unless you choose to think it is. So, instead, I choose to reflect on those pivotal moments and be grateful for them. Yes, even the tough ones. All of them are part of this life.

DEVELOP THE POSITIVE ATTITUDE, MINDSET AND BELIEFS TO TRANSFORM YOURSELF

All the heartbreaks, the accidents, the disappointments are moments to be grateful for because without them, I wouldn’t be who I am or where I am today. And neither would you. So, what to do? Let go of the pain of the past. Are you still carrying the weight of past pain or regrets? THEN, it’s time to put those down. Every painful experience in your life holds a hidden gift, a lesson that helps you grow.

Sometimes it’s hard to see it in the moment, but with time and reflection, you can uncover the blessings in disguise. You can connect the dots looking back and come to a different conclusion. Each challenge you’ve faced has presented you with a choice. And even if you didn’t see it then, each choice helped shape who you are today. Look back at those moments with gratitude, not regret. Because they’re part of your journey.

You can change your story! If you don’t like where you are right now, the good news is, YOU can change it. Maybe that force within you is nudging you to make different choices. Listen to your inner voice. That force isn’t outside of you; it’s within you. Your intuition, your higher self, always guides you toward growth, even when it feels uncomfortable. The trick or the key is learning what your intuition is from what you think it might be.

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Negative feelings, anger, frustration, sadness are your inner self’s way of telling you that something’s off, that it’s time for a change. If you ignore them, they’ll only grow louder. It’s like a messenger knocking at your door, delivering the same message until you finally listen. Don’t let those feelings become permanent houseguests. They’re there to prompt you into action, not to stay forever. The more you ignore them, the longer they linger.

You may not be able to change the past, but you can change how you view it. Reframe your past challenges as THE steppingstones to a better future. Instead of regretting past decisions, embrace them. Be grateful for the lessons they taught you. Because gratitude is a powerful force, it transforms your mind, your life, and the world around you. Your attitude matters! Embrace gratitude and responsibility and everything begins to transform.

When you take 100% responsibility for your life, your decisions, your thoughts, your feelings, your words, behaviors and actions that’s when real transformation begins. That’s when you step into your true power. You become the creator of your destiny. The captain of your ship. The architect of your future. Every moment is a choice. Think of your life as a series of moments, each one offering you a choice. You are always choosing whether you realize it or not.

DEVELOP THE POSITIVE ATTITUDE, MINDSET AND BELIEFS TO TRANSFORM YOURSELF

Choosing to wait and do nothing is a choice! But the good news is, the future isn’t set in stone. It’s shaped by the choices you make right now. Choose to be grateful for everything, every challenge, every hardship, every victory. When you do, you unlock a powerful force within you. Gratitude attracts blessings, opportunities, and success. It helps you live with purpose, using your thoughts and feelings to create a life you love.

You hold the power. It’s within you. It’s in your hands. SO, now, it’s up to you. Will you continue to dwell on the past, or will you step into the power of this present moment? Will you choose to take control of your life and create the future you desire? The choice is yours. You have the power to change your story, to change your life, right here, right now. Take that first step. If you hesitate you only delay what otherwise might have been.

To not choose is a choice to do nothing. Every moment you and I are faced with choices. Whatever choices we make lead to something. You can’t control the outcome. You can only choose, follow your intuition and trust it will all work out even when it doesn’t appear to. Start connecting the dots of your life and trust that, in time, the full picture will emerge. And when it does, it will be more beautiful than you ever imagined. You are the creator of your destiny. Everything works together for good EVEN when you think it doesn’t. Change your thinking and everything changes. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

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