“Companies call me in to model or teach advanced modeling programs to them or in my NLP trainings an important skill to develop is the ability to compare and contrast. Compare and contrast are great sills for modeling the abilities of successful role models so you can replicate that success. Typically, when creating a model of success and wellbeing you want at least 3 best models to compare

I’m called in for a variety of modeling reasons. Management wants to train others in leadership abilities or sales personnel in better sales, rapport and closing skills. There’s a variety of important purposes to seek best examples in your business or around you to extract skills, talents and abilities so you can train teams or individuals to get the same or similar results. You must be able to accurately observe.

You want to know what each model does to get particular success results that’s similar or the same as the other models. You want to compare what they think, feel, say and do in common so you can begin to do the same. You want to incorporate those elements into your behaviors so you get better results than you’ve been getting. You find what they do that’s the same so you can do it too.

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This is one of the powerful ways you can learn and benefit from positive success role models. So, choose role models wisely! You want the best you can find. You want to make certain they act with integrity and walk their talk. Why? Because you want to model congruence. You want to replicate consistent results and not BS from empty suits who market well but don’t live or do as they claim.

Something else you want to know is what each does that’s different from the others. What elements might help this model to be happy, wealthy and successful, that the others may not do. Each role model may do something unique, something different that makes the difference. You look for the beliefs and behaviors they share and the ones they don’t that makes them exceptional role models.

You want to find out if there’s anything a model does that gets that person exceptional results that the others don’t. You’re not looking to find out why the others don’t do it. You don’t care about that. You’re looking to discover if there’s an extra key, element, clue or practice the role model does to be successful that you could do too. Sometimes, one has an edge. You want to have that edge too.

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You explore what they do that’s similar or alike and what do they do that ‘s different or unlike what the others do that also brings them good results? From this you build a model of what they do that works to get great results. In expert modeling we extract successful beliefs, values, strategies, behaviors and more to build a model. Then we test it by teaching others the steps. You must always test.

If the students get the same results from using the model then you know it’s successful. If not, there’s something missing, so it’s back to the drawing board to discover what you missed. Most models don’t consciously know what they unconsciously do. They typically describe it wrong when they tell you what they do. That’s why you need a trained expert modeler to ferret out the things they can’t describe.

When I’m modeling I’m paying attention to many different aspects of communication, behavior and observing the role model in action. You also must know what questions to ask because they think they know what they’re doing, but don’t. They only know what they’re conscious of. That’s why they need me to unlock what they’re doing outside of consciousness that makes the difference. This is important.

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You look for matches and mismatches or unique differences between the models to get a more complete picture of what they do to be happy, healthy, wealthy and successful. The ability to compare and contrast are great skills to have when used appropriately. They can also be detrimental when not used properly. Comparison can be a huge stumbling block. Competition can be a huge block too.

If you compare yourself to others, you might end up feeling inferior to them or superior. If you feel inferior and limited it zaps you of your energy, creativity, positivity and the ability to make worthwhile changes. It’s an ego thing. You feel bad as a result. If you feel superior, you’re judging others as less than you. This isn’t good. Neither is good for you. Neither is good for others. Understand this.

You don’t want to compare yourself to someone who has had more experience than you or accomplished more than you and feel bad about it unless it inspires you to be better. Most of the time the person comparing ends up wallowing in pity, envying or resenting the other or others. The same is true about competition. Competing to crush your competition sets you up to be crushed too.

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What you put out comes back to you. When you judge others as inferior to you, you open yourself to the same judgements from others. When you think negatively of others that same energy affects you. You can’t go uphill thinking downhill thoughts. Life is not a comparison, although that’s what we’ve been conditioned to do. Life is not a competition. Don’t be one up or one down in relation to others.

Compare yourself today with yesterday and see how far you have come along. Compete with yourself to be the best you can be but do this in the proper frame of mind. The point is to think and do things that make you better, feel better, produce and accomplish better without stress, struggle, feeling bad about yourself, others or interfering with relationships and alliances that could be beneficial. Get it?

You are unique. You’re a unique expression of the one energy of the universe. Others are unique expressions of that same energy. There’s no competition in that. Stop comparing. At some level you and the others are the same. The same energy but expressed differently so why would you ever think poorly of yourself or of others? You are one energy. We are facets of the same diamond. Get it?

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As an expression you are set apart from the others by who you are. Your uniqueness sets you apart. Still, we are all the same. One energy. Everyone, everything is the same energy. When you discover this and wake up to what it means you can celebrate everything because you realize it really all is for you. Others are for you. Stop competing. Realize you are ‘one with everything’ and celebrate it all.

The nastiest people you want to flee from are gifts to help you awaken. They reflect aspects of you requiring change. They, as well as events and less-than-glorious circumstances are all gifts to help you discover your true self. They’re not here for you to criticize and resist, but to learn from, let go of, release to become more aware. So, think the best of everyone without competing and comparing.

Like the alerts on your dashboard, others and circumstances provide you feedback for what you need to pay attention to. To compete, or compare, to label and judge, to hate and attempt to exclude, to blame and complain about others and events keeps you from learning the lessons you need to learn and from transforming yourself in positive ways. Others and events are opportunities to transform!

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Using these skills and abilities, principles and practices I’ve helped countless thousands of individuals from all walks of life and companies excel and increase their cash flow and profits. BUT, it’s not just about monetary success. It’s about becoming the best you you can be. The purpose is to discover and release your inner resources and add new abilities to increase your joy and enhance relationships.

In business and in life cooperative teamwork improves everything you do. When everyone shares the vision and mission and has their oars in the water, facing in the same direction, rowing at the same time you get to your destination much quicker and easier. BUT, get one person rowing at the wrong time or facing in the wrong direction and you’ve discord and chaos. Learn to create harmony with all.

Instead of complaining about the others and events on the outside, go within and discover your authentic self. Discover how incredible you are and the opportunities you have to transform that are being offered you through another person or situation. Realize all is good. All is a blessing. Find the ways to be aligned within yourself and others. Be harmonious within and without. Seek congruence.

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Don’t judge, label, compare or compete in ways that cause you and others difficulty. If you do it’ll create problems for yourself or others. Stop letting what appears to be problems from others or circumstances derail you. If you look at something as a problem, it’s a problem for you. If you look at it as a blessing it’s a blessing. When you do can discover the blessing in all things it frees up your energy to awaken within. You and your life transform. You are happier, healthier and can be wealthier and more successful as a result. That’s why it is important to see all people and circumstances as gifts and blessings. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes