“I am responsible.’ Few people want to say this. Fewer want to say it confidently. ‘You are responsible.’ Fewer people want to be told or hear this. It seems taking responsibility for our thoughts, feelings, and actions is something many people want to avoid. That sucks.
We should take responsibility and be accountable. Two different things that seem similar. We own up to it and are willing to endure whatever positive or negative consequences that follow. What the many miss is there is great power in taking it all on. Very great!
Whether or not it is accurate to say we are responsible for everything that happens in our life, for our entire life, we access greater creative control over it all when we apply the principle to ourselves. We become the person who makes things happen.
When You Blame Others You Are Saying You Are Powerless
We eliminate victim mentality and exercise the ability to always have a positive next step to make more of what we want happen. We are in charge of our thoughts, feelings, actions and the results we get. While we do cooperate with others, it is still in our hands.
It is our focus, our dedicated attention, our intentions, and our own actions that create our life. Are we influenced from the outside? Yes, of course. When we take 100% of the responsibility on us, whether it is true or not, we have the power to create whatever we want!
We don’t allow room for pity or feeling sorry for ourselves. We may need to get up and dust off after a fall but we continue to move forward optimistically even when disappointed. We eliminate excuses, blaming ourselves or others, all accusing and negativity.
If You Don’t Like Something Change It Or Change Your Attitude
When we think positive, accept the responsibility, stop whining and keep forward momentum we can make nearly anything happen. Our mindset is strong, positive and firm. We are committed to correcting when necessary, adjusting and moving on. We create or find a way.
We don’t stop because the going gets hard. Nor do we make others responsible for our feelings or the results we get. We keep the power instead of giving it away. When it comes to communicating or working with others we realize it is up to us to help create rapport.
It is up to us to help insure the other person gets our message in a positive, useful and friendly say. The relationship should always be more important than the point you are attempting to make. Take the attitude others are in your care and you can help them understand.
Be Responsible – It Is You Who Will Get To Where You Want To Go
Adjust your communication positively until you create the understanding necessary to move forward. Don’t blame them for not ‘getting it’ adjust and be flexible. Attempt another approach until they begin to understand. Get it? Accept responsibility.
It may not really be yours to accept but when you wear that hat, adopt that concept, live from this mindset, you can get further faster than when you don’t. Get it? Beliefs don’t have to be ‘true’ to be useful. Understand the utility of the concept not the validity of it.
Be willing to try it on and claim the power for making positive things happen. Nurture them along. Help others instead of insisting that they ‘get’ you help them to. Go First! Create a positive attitude and climate from which you live your life and communicate with others. Get along. Turn resistance into assistance. Be grateful and celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes
Take charge and do it today!
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When I am teaching and my students are not getting it, I do not blaim them. I blaim me. The moment I blaim me my mind speeds up and begins thinging of all kinds of teaching learning activites to try on them to help them learn. If they do not get it, It is my fault. So I keep on blaiming me until I come up with a creative way to get it across to them. It always works as long as I do not give up. Eventually I get the right ideas that transform them.
Rex, thanks for your wonderful ideas you help me have the words to help others. You clarify my mind. Thank you so much.
Great post, and so wise. Responsibility is not so difficult and in fact it make you enjoy life more when you take ownership of your feelings.