“How do you get from bad to better? You change from bad to a little bit better. Step by step. You make incremental changes leading you to where you want to get. The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step. The decision to change. Then the journey is made step by step along the way. The goal is to feel a bit better. Then feel a bit better.

Then repeat that. Make yourself feel a little bit better again. How? Go for a walk. Smile and laugh even when you don’t feel like it. Recite affirmations enthusiastically or ask Directed Questions™. Play with a pet or a child. Go for a swim, sauna or take a bath. Do something you enjoy that helps you feel better. Gift yourself. Continue to do it repeatedly to feel better.

The goal is to feel the best you can most of the time. However, if you are intensely down or angry, going from that less-than-glorious place to wildly joyous may be too big a leap. So, you do it in increments. Tiny steps taken repeatedly, consistently in the right direction can take you to the top of Everest. However, if you quit you won’t make it there. Get it? Keep at it.

Freedom can be yours BUT if you do nothing, nothing changes!

Going from angry to frustrated is a smaller step and a worthwhile one. You are learning to lessen the anger and move away from it. You aren’t trying to jump a deep wide chasm of less-than-glorious thoughts and feelings; you are simply moving from one hot zone to a slightly cooler zone. Get it? Increments. Small steps. From frustrated to mildly annoyed.

Get it. You keep moving from the hot zone toward a mild zone. From the mild zone you can move toward feeling calm, or comfortable, or amused to delighted and on to more optimistic and positive and glorious feelings. Inch by inch you move from what you don’t want toward what you prefer or do want. You make yourself feel a little bit better and then do it again.

People either get frustrated and then angry or they get angry and cool off to frustrated. It’s like a gate that can move in either direction. A swinging door. So, when you’re really mad the goal is to cool off and begin to think of what you do want. If you are feeling down, you want to get to a bit better place. A place more okay. A place where you gradually feel more up.

Freedom can be yours BUT if you do nothing, nothing changes!

You can persuade yourself to smile more. Read or watch comedies. Play with a pet or a child. Go for a walk. Help someone else who is worse off. The point is to move from despair to feeling good again. You can begin thinking about what you do want. If you are depressed, you may want to get frustrated and angry. At least, from anger you can act. You say, ‘ENOUGH!’

You say, ‘I’m done with this. I’m going to change. Period! Enough of this. Never again. No more! I’m doing it!’ Because it’s intense you create movement. From there you can more readily and easily change. Sometimes you simply need to get to a place where ‘enough is enough’ for you to start making positive, productive changes. You stop wallowing in despair.

Think about the good things you like, feel grateful for and desire. Stop thinking about what you don’t want or what makes you feel down, fearful, doubtful or angry. Focus on the good, the delightful, and that which makes you feel good when you think about it. Think about what you want and can and will make happen and stop thinking about what you don’t like.

Freedom can be yours BUT if you do nothing, nothing changes!

IF, when you think about what you want you feel bad or worse, it means, it’s a signal that, you aren’ thinking about what you do want. GET THIS! You think you are, but you are thinking about not having it. You are doubtful or fearful or worried you won’t get it. You are looking at the gap between where you are and the distance to what you want. Your focus is off base.

You’re actually thinking about how you don’t have what you do want. You won’t feel good if you compare where you are to where you want to be, unless you are celebrating closing the gap. If, as you inch your way forward, you are delighted the entire time then it is fine. Get this! Focus on how good it feels to have what you want. To imagine already having it.

That makes the difference. NOTICE this; if you want to feel better you must manage your thoughts, feelings, speech and behaviors. You are in charge. You are responsible. AND if you aren’t yet, you need to be. Get this because it is important. The best thing you can do for you is decide to be responsible for how you go through your moments, days and your life. How you show up is up to you. Take charge. Put yourself in the driver’s seat so you can take yourself where you want to go. I write about this here and in my book, but I’d really like to show you how easy transformation can be. Come join me WHEN you are ready to transform. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

Freedom can be yours BUT if you do nothing, nothing changes!

“I give this course a massive thumbs up! And to put it into perspective I was already an NLP trainer when I came across this course some years back and I was blown away by the content in it and the way it is taught. Rex really knows his stuff and the content is amazing. But it! I mean every word.” Barry Neale – NLP trainer 2021

“My personal development journey took a turn for the better back in 1996 when I was fortunate enough to be trained and mentored by Rex Steven Sikes. It’s been my ongoing wish that Rex would put his personal and professional development insights, his unique accelerated learning techniques, and basic to advanced mindset strategies (what he’s rightfully termed Mind Design™) into a book. He’s finally done it and he’s held nothing back. Rex equips you with everything you need to live a more empowered life… He was the first person to really challenge me with the idea that to change my life, I had to change myself first. His concept of 100% Self-responsibility has served me so much in my life, it’s now the cornerstone of all my training and coaching as well. He states, “When you accept full responsibility for everything going on, you begin to access your inner strengths and power. When you accept responsibility your mind begins to look for solutions because you are responsible.” Bottom line: I’m a better coach, trainer, entrepreneur, husband, and parent because of Rex.”Joe Soto – International Marketing Coach

“I am beyond happy to call Rex Sikes my mentor and friend. (Yesterday he was was kind enough to be my Valentine’s too lol) seriously though. I’m so happy to have invested into his NLP home study course. Which he has taught many successful people in the past 40 years. Here’s a testimony from Joe Vitale from the movie the secret. If anyone is interested in joining the course. Please feel free to reach out to me.” Lynn Serrano – TV host, 2022

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