“Albert Einstein pointed out, ‘Setting an example is not the main means of influencing others, it is the only means.’ Which is precisely why it’s important we choose with great care and wisdom whom we elevate to role model status. Who do we want as ‘leaders’ or representatives? Who will some choose to follow? Careful, now. Who is a worthy role model for your child? Who do you want them to follow?

Actions speak louder than words! Whether it’s praise, whines, excuses or blames words are meaningless by comparison. Anyone can say or promise anything. Do they follow through? Are they good for it? Do they keep their word? Do they walk their talk? By their works you will know them. From their actions you will know them. You are known by the company you keep, and you seek.

Therefore, seek to be an exemplar. Be a compassionate, loving, kind understanding, accepting, honest, transparent role model. If you have anything, have integrity. Walk the talk and talk the walk. But make sure you truly walk it. Saying one thing but doing another, isn’t helpful. Unless it is thinking twice about doing something hurtful or harmful to yourself or others.

DEVELOP THE POSITIVE ATTITUDE, MINDSET AND BELIEFS TO TRANSFORM YOURSELF

Realize others are watching you whether you know it or like it. You are observed by young and old, by friends, family, coworkers and strangers. What example do want to give? Your words, your actions, your outlook and attitude are on display at all times. As are your ethics and morals. Whether you wish to or not you are likely influencing those around you and your words, behaviors and demeanor.

They are learning from you and even mirroring you. Especially children. Understand this. Become aware of your role in the world whether you chose it or not. You can’t not help influencing others by who you are and what you say and do. So, what kind of role model do you want to be? How about being positive, optimistic, humble, and kind. How about being authentic and true to yourself?

What about being dedicated to truth, kindness and helping others? Might that be important. No one cares how much you know if you’re a jerk. Do you care? Do you have empathy? Are you willing to be open, listen to understand, and accept others where they are at? Are you communicating honestly? Do you cooperate and collaborate and seek unity? Harmony is good. Do you support others?

DEVELOP THE POSITIVE ATTITUDE, MINDSET AND BELIEFS TO TRANSFORM YOURSELF

How good are you at inspiring, uplifting and edifying others. Do you help others? Do you have patience? Are you truly respectful of others? Can you appreciate who they are even when different or holding different beliefs and opinions? Do you express gratitude for others? Are you open and accepting of them, or do you harbor resentments, prejudices and grudges? Are you a forgiving person?

Do you take full responsibility for your actions whether good or bad? Do you therefore hold yourself accountable as well? Are you trustworthy and reliable? Can you be counted on? Do you respect yourself AND others? It’s important to do both. If you respect your time, do you respect theirs? AND if you respect their time, do you respect yours? Are you so willing to be liked you’ll say or do anything?

No one really likes a ‘yes’ person who will say anything just to be liked. It’s fine to have an opinion. It’s great to have a purpose, vision and a mission. What is important is how you pursue it. Do you want to crush others and beat the competition or do you understand there is a place for all. Being the best doesn’t mean others can’t be great too. Are you flexible and willing to change when wrong.

DEVELOP THE POSITIVE ATTITUDE, MINDSET AND BELIEFS TO TRANSFORM YOURSELF

If you make a mistake, can you adjust and continue? Are you patient, forgiving, understanding and kind to yourself as well as others? When troubles appear to your rise to the occasion or buckle. Who are you? What kind of role model are you? Because you are one even if you say you are not. So, be the best one. Be the one you’d want your kids to learn and benefit from. Whose care you could leave them in and trust they’d not only be okay but be well off because of the time spent with you. Get it? Be responsible to yourself and to all. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes