“Last time we explored how feeling good and letting it increase, before exiting, begins to train your brain to expect more of the same. That process, when repeated, creates powerful neural associations and rewires your responses in daily life. And you don’t have to wait for ‘the perfect moment’ to feel good. You can create […]
“In the last blog, I invited you to begin practicing a simple but profoundly transformative process, one where you revisit memories of feeling good and use them as tools to shape your present and future. We’re continuing that journey now and for a few more blogs. Today, we begin the next layer. This is the […]
“In recent blogs, I shared how to stop the emotional boulder before it gains momentum, to create that space, that pause, where you have choice. Where you stop reacting and start responding. That’s the entryway. Today, we begin the process that will help you build the kind of internal strength and flexibility that allows you to thrive, no matter what life […]
“You remember last time, we talked about catching that emotional boulder before it barrels downhill, don’t you? That precise moment when you still have a chance to gently place your hand on it and stop it in its tracks. That sweet, subtle space where power lives, where you get to decide who is in charge: […]
“‘… think of your life as a crowded pantry shelf. To make room for anything else you would have to remove from that shelf something you wanted less,’ is another favorite Elsie Benedict quote. She adds, the Law of Compensation states, ‘if you want something you haven’t got, merely take off the shelf something you already have, and make room for the newer and better and more desired thing.’
Well, it’s true. Two forms of matter cannot occupy the same space. If your ‘pantry shelf’ is littered with doubt, fear, confusion, chaos, frustration, debt, anger, worry, sadness, looniness or something else to make room for the new desires you must remove these. It means you must be willing to let go of and release any attachment to your old way of being so you can begin to live the new way. Let it go.
You don’t have to fight or force the unwanted things to go away, you simply stop giving them energy. You refuse to let them occupy space inside you. You stop feeding the weeds. If you remove the life energy from them, they will wither away on their own. Your job is to nurture the good you desire. Feed the flowers. In letting go of the things you fight and don’t want; you make room for the better things.
Replace fear with courage. Replace sadness with joy. Replay doubt with certainty. Replace laziness with action. Replace negativity with positivity. Replace worry with optimism. Replace hate with love. Get it? Replace indecision with decisiveness. Make room for the good you want in your life. ‘If it is to be, it is up to me.’ Create positive space within. Nurture and encourage goodness.
Appreciate and feel grateful for all. Life is a gift. The ability to become aware of what prevents you and release it is a gift. It will come through discomfort. When the shoe fits you don’t notice it, but when it is too tight, and blisters form you do. It is through the discomfort and challenges our opportunities present themselves. Our troubles are gifts to become conscious, aware, awake and to transform. Be grateful for this and grateful for all. Get it? Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes
“Rex is absolutely brilliant and transparent. My go-to book for those I mentor who want to be happy and successful with their lives as they choose.” – Fred Van Lieu ‘The Water Doctor,’ Author
Get the book. Change your life using the principles and practices. Check it out now if you like. Read it, enjoy it, and transform. Celebrate!
“Rex’s background as change agent, actor, magician, mentalist, communicator, performer, and survivor, makes him well practiced in the art of knowing the inner landscape of the human mind. In this book, he hands you the keys to unlock the magical kingdom within you. Not only do you receive the keys, codes, and passwords, you also get the full behind-the-scenes tour to know how to use them. You can now take charge of your own thinking and enjoy the abundant riches you are uniquely qualified to produce as you live life on your own terms.” – Paul R. Scheele, Ph.D
“The more intense your good feelings are, the more swiftly you bring about positive change. There’s great power in living optimistically and vibrantly! Make yourself feel a little bit better each day. Whenever you notice you’re not feeling great, do something positive to feel better. Take a break, take a walk, get some exercise or some rest. Read something inspirational or chant your affirmations.
Chant them firmly enthusiastically! Hang around positive people. Smile more! Wake up the positive physical energy in your body by moving your body more. Dance, shake, skip, twirl, jump. Wake yourself up. The more energy you awaken the more there is to awaken. Use your mind in positive ways. The more energy you put into it the more you get from it. Feel vibrant and alive.
There’s more energy in an empty inch of space than in all the world’s power sources. There’ plenty to go around. Energy flows where your attention goes! You are alive! All your trillions of cells are alive and vibrating. You have more than sufficient energy, but you may not be using it. Too many people feel only okay. They robotically move from day to day. They don’t choose to awaken and enjoy life fully.
They do the same routines, accepting that this is how it is and don’t have much to look forward to. Others do the same routines, THE SAME ROUTINES as the others, but they feel alive, delighted and fulfilled. Those others put all their hope in things outside themselves to rescue them. They live as victims. Those who live fully and completely know it comes from within. From within to without.
You can live as victors by awakening the energy within you. Your positive thoughts are extra powerful when combined with the most intense positive good feelings! The more intense the feelings, the easier the subconscious mind gets the message. It reproduces more of the goodness we give to it through powerful feelings. You will live feeling delighted and fulfilled by living with appreciation and gratitude. Feel thankfulness, joy and love. You may be surprised with how incredible everything becomes when you truly celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes
“Rex is absolutely brilliant and transparent. My go-to book for those I mentor who want to be happy and successful with their lives as they choose.” – Fred Van Lieu ‘The Water Doctor,’ Author
Get the book. Change your life using the principles and practices. Check it out now if you like. Read it, enjoy it, and transform. Celebrate!
“Rex’s background as change agent, actor, magician, mentalist, communicator, performer, and survivor, makes him well practiced in the art of knowing the inner landscape of the human mind. In this book, he hands you the keys to unlock the magical kingdom within you. Not only do you receive the keys, codes, and passwords, you also get the full behind-the-scenes tour to know how to use them. You can now take charge of your own thinking and enjoy the abundant riches you are uniquely qualified to produce as you live life on your own terms.” – Paul R. Scheele, Ph.D
Shocking studies demonstrate the power of your mind! Read the blog and the research:
“I’ve been arguing for the conscious application of the placebo effect for 40 years. I’ve been mocked in books and articles for suggesting you can use the power of your mind to make positive changes in your health, happiness, wealth and success. Attitude is everything. What you expect to happen opens the door for that very expectation to manifest. What you think about, you bring about. GET THIS!
It’s why I have written a daily blog for more than 10 years. It’s why I created the Attitude Activator™, Mind Design™ and other programs. You and I need to understand the incredible, usually untapped potential of our mindset which is our beliefs, our attitudes, our expectations. Whether you think you can or you think you can’t, you are correct. You must develop a winner’s attitude to win. GET THIS!
Thinking makes it so. Believing makes it so. I’m not talking about fantasy thinking like wishing for an elephant to appear in your room. I’m talking about all those things within the laws of nature that you are capable of. People have done incredible things in moments of crisis because they tap into these inner reserves. People heal, become wealthy, attract love and live happier lives when they expect to.
I am sharing a few studies which demonstrate how powerful your mind, your attitude, your beliefs, your expectations, your thoughts are. Pay attention. I hope I convince you to do every positive thing you can to develop a positive, powerful, optimistic healthy attitude. Take charge of your thinking and you take charge of your life. Change your thinking and you can transform your life! GET THIS!
I’ll show you more and share more in upcoming blogs. If you’d like to learn more in the meantime get Life On Your Terms: Create The Life You Want.There are so many important studies, findings and applications for you to discover and use to create the health, wellbeing, wealth and success you want. As I’ve pointed out for more than 40 years we’ve great power to learn to use purposefully.
When I began this work more than 40 years ago there were handful of studies. Doctors routinely dismissed the Placebo Effect. Today, there’s more than 45,000 studies on the Placebo/Nocebo effect, the power of attitude and beliefs, visualization and creating wellness in your mind. Studies regarding weight lifting, piano playing and more. I discuss in my book. We’ve come a long way.
I can’t emphasize enough how important your attitude towards yourself, others and life is. What you think about you bring about. What you focus on expands. There are many examples of Nocebo Effects, or unwanted, undesirable effects occurring from negative attitudes, expectations and thoughts. There are many examples of positive effects by maintaining a positive, optimistic attitude. Understand this.
There’s no substitute for developing a healthy, positive attitude because the alternative sucks! I hope this speaks to your heart and mind and you make a deliberate choice to take charge of your life, health, wealth, love, happiness and success by developing an unstoppable, unwavering, positive belief in yourself and the goodness from within and all around you. Celebrate everything and everything changes. GET THIS. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes
1. Case Reports
2007 May-Jun;29(3):275-7.
Nocebo effects with antidepressant clinical drug trial placebos
Roy R Reeves1, Mark E Ladner, Roy H Hart, Randy S Burke
ABSTRACT:
We describe an individual who experienced unusual negative effects while taking a placebo during a clinical drug trial. A 26-year-old male took 29 inert capsules, believing he was overdosing on an antidepressant. Subsequently, he experienced hypotension requiring intravenous fluids to maintain an adequate blood pressure until the true nature of the capsules was revealed. The adverse symptoms then rapidly abated. The nocebo effect (undesirable symptoms following administration of an inert substance that the patient believes to be an active drug) may have significant negative impacts on certain patients. Further research is warranted to better understand this phenomenon.
2. Eur J Neurol
2012 May;19(5):672-80.
Epub 2011 Oct 4.
Nocebo in fibromyalgia: meta-analysis of placebo-controlled clinical trials and implications for practice
D D Mitsikostas1, N G Chalarakis, L I Mantonakis, E-M Delicha, P P Sfikakis
Background: Nocebo refers to adverse effects (AEs) generated by negative expectations that medical treatment will likely harm instead of heal and can be assessed in placebo-controlled randomized clinical trials (RCTs). We examined AEs following placebo administration in RCTs for fibromyalgia (FM), a condition characterized by patients’ poor medication adherence, which may affect outcome and/or increase healthcare costs.
Methods: Following a systematic Medline search for RCTs for FM pharmacologic treatment published between 2001 and 2010, we assessed percentages of placebo-treated patients reporting at least one AE or discontinuing because of placebo intolerance and searched for factors influencing nocebo’s extent. Percentages were compared with those revealed by similar meta-analyses of RCTs for multiple sclerosis and primary headaches.
Results: Data were extracted from 16 RCTs fulfilling search criteria. Of 2026 placebo-treated patients, 67.2% (95%CI: 51.0-81.5%) reported at least one AE, and 9.5% (95%CI: 8.3-10.9%) discontinued placebo treatment because of intolerance. AEs in placebo arms corresponded quantitatively and qualitatively to those in active drug arms (ρ > 0.88, P < 0.0001). Younger age and larger placebo arm size were associated with increased dropout rates. Patients with depression were more likely to withdraw from trials. Nocebo dropouts in FM trials were fourfold and twofold higher than in RCTs for multiple sclerosis treatment and migraine preventive treatment, respectively.
Conclusions: Nocebo is remarkably prevalent in FM patients participating in RCTs. Because nocebo contributes to drug intolerance and treatment failure in clinical practice, identification of predisposing factors and efforts to prevent nocebo by educating these patients appropriately may be important for FM outcome.
The placebo effect suggests your mind can be as powerful in some cases as the treatment itself.
It might be easy to shrug your shoulders whenever you hear someone say “it’s all about mind over matter,” but sometimes, especially with medical research, that’s literally the case. The mind can be a powerful thing that helps your body heal through times of stress and duress, and in some cases, it can be powerful enough to cause what’s known as the placebo effect….
6. SELF-FULFILLING PROPHECY EXCEPTED FROM WORK OF CARL SIMONTON
‘The effects of positive expectancy in a study of 152 cancer patients at Travis Air Force Base, the major Air Force medical facility on the West Coast. Five staff members rated the patients on their attitude toward treatment and evaluated their responses to treatment over the next eighteen months. The results were clear: those patients with positive attitudes had better responses to treatment; those with negative attitudes had poorer responses. In fact, of the 152 patients only two who had shown a negative attitude had a good response to treatment. The most significant finding of the study was that a positive attitude toward treatment was a better predictor of response to treatment than was the severity of the disease. That is, patients who had very serious prognoses but positive attitudes did better than patients who had relatively less serious prognoses but negative attitudes. In addition, patients who began to view their treatments positively often reported reduced side effects.’ …
Simonton Md, O. Carl; Creighton Phd, James; Simonton, Stephanie Matthews. Getting Well Again (pp. 82-83). Random House Publishing Group.
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If you want your life to change you must change things in your life. The first and most important update is changing your attitude! Your attitude is comprised of your beliefs and expectations. It’s those thoughts you repeatedly think that keep you the same OR that move you forward to greater and more wonderful results.
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ATTITUDE IS THE NUMBER ONE PREDICTOR OF SUCCESS IN ALL AREAS OF YOUR LIFE!
“The amount of time one spends devoted to their personal happiness and their personal and professional goals makes a difference in how easily attainable these are. How you spend your time IS important. A plant is either growing or dying. It is either feeding or starving. Are you feeding and growing or starving and dying? Evaluate this each moment of each day.
How you spend your time is important! How much time you devote to your goal and how good you feel while spending that time are the two critical ingredients. Now for the second important factor that determines the ease with which you manifest and live your life.
2. Intensity
Intensity is the kicker that makes it all work better, easier and faster. Intensity is the lynchpin. Intensity is what supercharges your thoughts and your actions. Intensity IS the difference that makes the difference. As Napoleon Hill says, a little fire produces little heat. A big fire produces big heat. magnifying focuses the sun’s rays to burn paper that otherwise can sit in the sun unaffected.
What to do? FEEL GOOD RIGHT NOW! Feel as good as you can for as much time as you can. Spend your days living in gratitude, enthusiasm, optimism, fascination and joy. Live with delight and passion. Enjoy the best feelings you have. Feel good right now in your present. Your feelings are your vibrations. Vibe the highest frequency with the most wonderful intensity. This alone will transform your life.
The more time you spend feeling good the quicker you can accomplish your goals and make your dreams come true. The more time you feel good the more time you WILL be able to feel good. You get back great returns on your investment when you think and feel positive most of your time. Fill your mind with positive, optimistic, grateful thoughts and you’ll feel better. Think and grow happy.
When you feel great and you are passionate and enthused, when you are eager and are filled with energy, you think clearer and can keep going longer. Your intense feelings make you powerful. Feeling intensely good in the present moment makes everything work better! Everything works together more smoothly when you are feeling this way because your nervous system works better.
Negativity and stress take its toll on your health and wellbeing. It robs you of your energy. Everything is constricted. You don’t think as well, feel as well or act as well. Your immune system gets depressed. But live with joy, gratitude, enthusiasm and you promote wellbeing, health and extra ability. It works! Some people may think, ‘Well, if I could feel good I would.’ You need to take charge.
You’ll never think and feel your best if you expect the outer world to make you happy or better. It doesn’t work that way. That only provides a temporary relief. Events and circumstances you celebrate pass. BUT when you make feeling wonderful a habit it is reliable and long lasting. It becomes your way of life. It’s reliable. It then works automatically as all habits do. It becomes second nature.
The way to feel better IS to take control, even when you don’t feel like it, and control your thoughts and feelings. Learn to do the things that make you feel better. A few things that help in this are to eat right, sleep right and get enough exercise. Eliminate chemicals and additives. Sit, stand and move with more energy. Get a massage. Many suggestions are in my previous blog posts and my book.
This is WHY we fill our mind with positive thoughts. It’s why we read and listen to inspiring materials. It IS why we visualize our goals as completed and feel the feelings of that accomplishment. It is why we monitor our self-talk to ensure it is positive. It’s why we affirm out loud and passionately. It’s not possible to feel ecstasy or joy all the time but you can spend more time feeling these.
Your default setting can be far more positive, optimistic, joyful and grateful than yours is right now. Making this a habit helps you feel your best more of the time and even during times of difficulty. Whenever you’ re feeling less-than-glorious you can make yourself feel just a little bit better. This works! Nudge yourself in the direction of feeling good. Encourage it. DO it.
You’ll discover so many positive changes it will astound you. Why? Because It’s a system of self-management available to use that few ever discover. You now know about it. It’s time to learn how to do it. Put yourself in the driver’s seat 100% and take responsibility for whatever happens good or bad. Take responsibility for managing your thoughts and feelings.
Steer yourself in the most positive direction. You don’t have to try to leap from sadness to ecstasy, that may be too big of a jump. Just make yourself feel a little bit better. That starts you on the path to overall well-being. Step by step. You do not have to do it all at once or even in one day. In time you’ll learn how to feel your best.
Celebrate everything life offers. Good or not-so-good. Learn to appreciate the gift of life you have and find what you can and are thankful and grateful for and emphasize it. Focus on it. Dwell on the good. The longer you feel better the better you feel. The more you move yourself to feel better when you are, not the easier it becomes. The more you appreciate all of it the more you transform. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes
“Rex is absolutely brilliant and transparent. My go-to book for those I mentor who want to be happy and successful with their lives as they choose.” – Fred Van Lieu ‘The Water Doctor,’ Author
Get the book. Change your life using the principles and practices. Check it out now if you like. Read it, enjoy it, and transform. Celebrate!
“Rex’s background as change agent, actor, magician, mentalist, communicator, performer, and survivor, makes him well practiced in the art of knowing the inner landscape of the human mind. In this book, he hands you the keys to unlock the magical kingdom within you. Not only do you receive the keys, codes, and passwords, you also get the full behind-the-scenes tour to know how to use them. You can now take charge of your own thinking and enjoy the abundant riches you are uniquely qualified to produce as you live life on your own terms.” – Paul R. Scheele, Ph.D
“Can you imagine, do you imagine, a day when war becomes obsolete? If we can’t imagine this, it is not likely to happen. Consider this: IN school, someone bullies and beats up a kid. What happens? Typically, the kid has friends or family that go after the bully. The bully gets beat up. What happens? His friends and family come for revenge. This goes on and on and on and on.
The only way to stop it is to not engage in it. Do not succumb to violence or returning violence. It only escalates. Bullies think it won’t. They think they will prevail, and they may for a while but typically all bullies meet worse bullies or those counteracting the original hurt and harm. HOW about imagining new ways to get along instead of old ways to do harm?
‘Imagination is more important than knowledge.’ said Einstein and he is not the only one. How about we do as John Lennon asked and ‘give peace a chance’ do you think we can. If not, what are you advocating instead? We can only go where our mind takes us. Whether an individual mind or a group mind. If it is to be it is up to me, is the saying OR if it is to come true, it is up to you.
Let’s find ways to create harmony and friendship to create a better world instead of pulling it apart. Hurting each other doesn’t help, it only hurts all. Yes, it may require forgiveness and sometime but if we don’t attempt it we are doomed to repeat. Let’s break the cycle by doing something productive, positive and new. If you always do what you always did, you’ll always get what you always got.
Don’t you think it’s time for a change? ‘Be the change you want to see in the world,’ said Gandhi. He led a peaceful movement and brought the British empire to its knees with passive resistance. Others have attempted the same. It seems most have met with violence. That doesn’t mean they always will, but it is possible. Good and bad exist the same as day and night. They both are part of life and cycles.
For us to evolve we need to grow up. We need to evolve our consciousness to the point violence is not the solution. It means changing our rhetoric, our metaphors, analogies and allegories. Maybe we don’t need to declare war on things we don’t like. Maybe if we become less violent others will too? It is possible, but not unless you believe it is possible. What you consider impossible keeps it the same.
You can light a million candles off one candle if yours is lit first. People model each other and learn from role models. We tend to copy each other. How about we hold out for love, peace, compassion, kindness, understanding, acceptance, harmony and helping each other instead of the alternatives. Hold out for good and positivity by becoming the examples others may follow. Eventually, the movement will grow and take hold. If we don’t attempt it, surely it won’t happen. Are you in? I hope so. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes
“This may be the wisest, more realistic, and most helpful book I’ve come across. I’ve been a self-help book addict for at least five decades, and I’ve read many of the greats. This is up there with the greats and maybe beyond. Besides extraordinary insights, the style is accessible and compelling. I loved LIFE ON YOUR TERMS. Buy it!” Mitzi Perdue – Author, Entrepreneur (Perdue Chicken)
“When you RAVE and create positive experiences for others. That benefits them but it also benefits you. What goes around comes around. What you put out, comes back. You benefit whenever you do something wonderful for another person. This doesn’t mean because you recognize others, others automatically recognize you. They might. They most probably will but that’s not what’s meant.
It’s like a smile. When you smile nicely at another person, you’re more apt to get one back OR you just feel good making someone else feel good. When you give out positive energy without expectations of getting anything in return; when you commit an act of kindness simply for being kind; when you treat someone else marvelously just because you are being nice, you’re benefiting yourself. It returns to you.
You get to feel good about it. You feel great because you made others feel great. Both parties feel great. If nothing else, that alone IS enough. Still, there may be something more. There may be that positive energy you generate for others DOES come back to you in any variety of ways. This is the point of the Golden Rule. Treat others exceptionally well. And the Law of Cause and Effect combined.
Shower them with positive regard, love and friendship. Validate and celebrate another person’s success without envy or resentment and you benefit. Put into motion positive thoughts and feelings. Even if they never know about it YOU transform yourself. You become a better person. It changes you! When you are the cause of good, the effects of your good return to you. Cause and effect. Get it? I hope so.
Even if there is no return you STILL become a better person because of it. You become a better person because you went first. You initiated it. That’s Rex’s Rule, GO FIRST! You create something wonderful. There is no waiting, no whining, no blaming, there are only great thoughts and feelings which you generate and share. You put good into motion. That’s awesome. Expect to find more good as a result.
When you don’t do it to get back but to give without conditions everything works much better. And since you become what you think about most of the time, you can improve yourself by helping others mentally in your thoughts and by your actions. Both work and both are important. Fill your life with gratitude, validation, positivity, happiness, joy, feeling marvelous, and you are healthier and wealthier.
From this mindset you can create anything you want. Do you want more love? BE MORE Loving! Do you want better friendships? BE A BETTER FRIEND. Do you want more money? DEVELOP A RICH MINDSET. Do you want to feel better? THINK BETTER. Thoughts precede actions and actions precede results. Do you want better results? Begin with how you think and feel. Put the very best positive energy to work for you and for others. Create a marvelous world to be part of! Imagine how incredible your life will be when you make this an automatic, reliable habit. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes
“This may be the wisest, more realistic, and most helpful book I’ve come across. I’ve been a self-help book addict for at least five decades, and I’ve read many of the greats. This is up there with the greats and maybe beyond. Besides extraordinary insights, the style is accessible and compelling. I loved LIFE ON YOUR TERMS. Buy it!” Mitzi Perdue – Author, Entrepreneur (Perdue Chicken)
“Why aren’t you getting the results you want with thinking and growing rich? Why isn’t the Law of Attraction seemingly working for you? Well, mostly it is because people over think. They overreact. They over Do. They push it away by what they’re thinking. They cling. They push. They’re desperate so they fear. They constantly check and evaluate is it working? They worry. ‘Why isn’t it working?’
‘What else can I do? What must be done? I want it now! I don’t have it when will I get it? How can I do it? It isn’t working!’ They doubt. They get into a frenzy. They push and push but like when stuck in the mud their tires are spinning but not producing wanted results. RELAX! pushing it isn’t helping it. The Law of Attraction IS WORKING, and you are getting what you’re producing. What you don’t want.
You are getting more worried and afraid and lack of evidence. Remember, lack of evidence IS NOT evidence of lack. To begin getting what you want, stop wanting it! I’ll say it again. STOP WANTING IT! Accept and celebrate that you ALREADY have it. It’s quite simple. Imagine what you want from the feeling of it already being done. You are already it. You are already doing it. Feel what that feels like.
You feel the feelings of gratitude of already being, doing and having it. It’s not in the future. It’s now. You already have it. SO, it is in your past. You got it already. You got it in your past. You did it. Live from the feeling of the wish fulfilled. Inside your head you lived it by seeing what you’d have seen, feel what you felt, hearing what you heard and was said and said by yourself and any tastes and smells.
Live in the inner imaginary world of sensory stimulation the same things you’d see, hear, feel, do, taste and smell as if you were actually doing it. Do it with passion and feeling. Do it before falling asleep and go to sleep feeling wonderful. Wake up, rinse and repeat. THEN let go. Allow it to unfold. Don’t push. Stop doubting. Stop whining. Stop comparing and allow it to happen. STOP overdoing. Relax. Trust.
You planted the seed. Let it grow. Accept it when it shows up. Stop pushing it away through desperation, thinking ‘is it or isn’t it? Am I doing it right?’ And feeling doubt, worry or fear about it. Develop the certainty that it is done. “Let there be light. And it was good.” Stay positive. Stay optimistic. Stay enthused. Stay delighted as you would if you already are it, doing it and having it.
It’s yours right here and now. Not maybe. You are it. NOW. Have that certainty. What happens when you find your lost keys or glasses? YOU STOP LOOKING FOR IT! You have it. It’s yours. The search is over. Use Directed Questions™ and affirmations and all the rest to develop certainty. BECOME CERTAIN. You plant the seeD. Nurture it and let go. You make it happen. You made it happen. No worries. No fear. No doubt. Just certainty, passion, enthusiasm and delight. GET this and you GET EVERYTHING! Understand? Stop worrying and Celebrate Everything!” Rex Sikes
“This may be the wisest, more realistic, and most helpful book I’ve come across. I’ve been a self-help book addict for at least five decades, and I’ve read many of the greats. This is up there with the greats and maybe beyond. Besides extraordinary insights, the style is accessible and compelling. I loved LIFE ON YOUR TERMS. Buy it!” Mitzi Perdue – Author, Entrepreneur (Perdue Chicken)
“Rex, I love your book! I just want to say thank you for who you are and how you are showing up and particularly for ‘Life On Your Terms.’ It is a powerful book that impacted me and people I have shared it with. They call me and say, ‘thank you!’ And I say, ‘thank Rex because he is a bad dude up in here, up in here.” Les Brown – Speaker
“Rex is absolutely brilliant and transparent. My go-to book for those I mentor who want to be happy and successful with their lives as they choose.” – Fred Van Lieu ‘The Water Doctor,’ Author
“One of the most transformative books I’ve ever read. This book is amazing! Rex provides a blueprint of simple tools that anyone can use to achieve what you desire. There are so many books out that claim to show you how to create the life you desire but end up being disappointing. This book actually does what it says. No frills. No New Age jargon. Just down-to-earth methods that work when you work them. It really is a breath of fresh air!” Ron Matthews – Physicist
“Rex Sikes book ‘Life On Your Terms’ is truly, truly the ‘Think And Grow Rich’ of the 21st Century.” Dr. Jo Dee Nylander-Baer – Health Coach
Get the book. Change your life using the principles and practices. Check it out now. Read it, enjoy it, and transform. Transform yourself and how you think, feel and behave to get Celebrate!
“So many people today chase celebrities, shiny objects, empty suits and possessions instead of being, doing and having ethics, morals, integrity, wisdom, kindness, compassion, love, acceptance and the greatest good for all. Why? Because we’ve been conditioned to want more. We’ve been conditioned to compare and feel bad if weacquirethings that make usfeelimportant. They make us backwards.
We want and sacrifice to spend our money to get things that we think will provide status and importance in the eyes of others so we will feel better by being somebody. Marketing and advertisers have appealed to us so they can get us spending more. Thank you Edwin Bernays the father of propaganda or as it became now Public Relations. If you don’t know about him, here’s a Wiki on him.
The point is if we become good, we will do good and have good. It is exactly the other way around from what ‘they’ want you to seek. They want you to crave things so much you sacrifice to spend so you can feel better and more important. The problem with this is you miss life sacrificing to become something you already are but don’t recognize. You waste life and miss the importance of things.
There’s nothing wrong with things but things like people perish. People think things will make them happy and they do temporarily. There’s a brain chemical rush with the new thing BUT the rush wears off and the thing grows old, not unnoticeable and nowadays breaks down faster or is replaceable than ever before. You get the newest phone this month only to want the latest phone next month.
In the USA if not the rest of the world, consumerism is promoted over quality of life. ‘THEY’ want you to think if you only have the right things, you will have a happy life. Well, ask the many, many, many wealthy people who chased things only to discover they aren’t happier. Things weren’t the answer. Some remain miserable but rich. Others learn what it’s about and change. You can too.
No need to be stuck. Although stuck is where ‘they’ want you to remain. You know, ‘work for the man’, spend your money on things and stay broke in that pursuit. BUT you don’t have to. Become the person for whom manifesting positivity and goodness for yourself, and others and you can break free. When you develop and adopt the right mind, you begin to take the right actions.
This makes it easier to get things. The formula is sound. There’s nothing wrong with things. Desire is normal and natural. It’ not the desire to have better that’s wrong. It’s good. The problem is the attachment and sacrifice of the present in pursuit of a future that doesn’t arrive and is left unfulfilled. Ask a rich person if they prefer riches to lack and they’ll say riches. I do too.
There’s nothing wrong with riches. It’s natural and normal. ‘They’ don’t want it for you. They need you to be a stuck workforce buying their goods so they can remain rich. There’s plenty of money for everyone all around the world. The issue isn’t lack. The issue is access. Restricted access, cartel like practices and intentional scarcity drives demand and pricing.
If everyone wants it or needs it, likely you will too. It’s conditioning. It’s mindset, but we can change it, you and me. We need not suffer. There’s plenty of goodness. My work has been and is to connect you up with the resources needed to liberate yourself from this hamster wheel and create the life you want and deserve. That includes the things you desire.
Most of my life is spent helping people find inner resourcefulness, possibilities and opportunities so they can discover and use them. From within to without. BE DO HAVE. When you’re thinking right and you BE it first, your feelings and actions align. Things get easier because of WHO you are not because of what you try and do. I repeat. Things get easier because of WHO you are not! For no other reason.
They want you to work hard and sacrifice your family time, leisure and life to buy something else. I want you to be able to buy something else without all the sacrifice. You should enjoy life now while you acquire things. Get it? Who you are determines how easily you move through the world and navigate difficulty if you do. Most of us do. WHO you are. It isn’t what you do.
Become it and everything else falls into place. I show and share with you how to become it with less effort and more delight so that you live your life the same way. Less effort. More delight. Certainly, you could work really, really hard if you don’t know better. My message is you can have it all when you become the kind of person for whom having it all is delightful and effortless.
Does this mean there’s no effort? No. It means far less effort, but you still need to be in charge. The difference is I help you take charge of you. Others want you to work hard and do lots of things to get stuff, so you become better. Be better first and everything else becomes better. Join me so I can assist you. No one can do it for you though many will claim that. It’s a lie.
You must do it but the rewards are yours. You own it then. It’s not that difficult but ‘they’ want you distracted so you never discover this. They mislead you so you can’t or don’t find yourself. I want you to know you are already everything you seek. The conditioning hides it, but you are incredible. Let me help you discover the real you who is more than capable of having an incredible life.
There’s no need to worry about lack and restriction when you are creating from the abundance within and around you. Live life on your terms. Create the life you want. When you realize it is from within you that you create the outer world everything changes. When you ARE it you naturally do it and there’s no struggle or sacrifice. When you ARE it, IT is available to you.There’s a huge secret in the next sentence that’s always there to help you AND it’s so powerful. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes
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“This may be the wisest, more realistic, and most helpful book I’ve come across. I’ve been a self-help book addict for at least five decades, and I’ve read many of the greats. This is up there with the greats and maybe beyond. Besides extraordinary insights, the style is accessible and compelling. I loved LIFE ON YOUR TERMS. Buy it!” Mitzi Perdue – Author, Entrepreneur (Perdue Chicken)
“Rex, I love your book! I just want to say thank you for who you are and how you are showing up and particularly for ‘Life On Your Terms.’ It is a powerful book that impacted me and people I have shared it with. They call me and say, ‘thank you!’ And I say, ‘thank Rex because he is a bad dude up in here, up in here.” Les Brown – Speaker
“Rex is absolutely brilliant and transparent. My go-to book for those I mentor who want to be happy and successful with their lives as they choose.” – Fred Van Lieu ‘The Water Doctor,’ Author
“One of the most transformative books I’ve ever read. This book is amazing! Rex provides a blueprint of simple tools that anyone can use to achieve what you desire. There are so many books out that claim to show you how to create the life you desire but end up being disappointing. This book actually does what it says. No frills. No New Age jargon. Just down-to-earth methods that work when you work them. It really is a breath of fresh air!” Ron Matthews – Physicist
“Rex Sikes book ‘Life On Your Terms’ is truly, truly the ‘Think And Grow Rich’ of the 21st Century.” Dr. Jo Dee Nylander-Baer – Health Coach
Get the book. Change your life using the principles and practices. Check it out now. Read it, enjoy it, and transform. Transform yourself and how you think, feel and behave to get Celebrate!
“So many people thank me for this blog and for clubhouse discussions and I appreciate it. Many people subscribe to this blog and share these posts. Thank YOU so much. That really helps me get this important work, the message that you can transform, live life on your terms and create the life you want, out. Some ask why I do it. Why have I blogged these daily consecutive posts for all these years?
My reason is we all need and can certainly use at least a little daily inspiration and some daily gratitude to start our day. I began this blog many years ago to be able to contribute to you and others. I wanted to help people to remember that they can be, do and have anything they want. It’s true we can make miracles happen. Magic can become our reality. I write daily to help people.
Start the day with a positive message. Think about it during the day. That can make you believe that you’re capable of many positive things. The entire day can become available to you to invite and make magic and miracles. Each day I hope more people wake up. Realize anything is possible when you put your mind to it. Greatness can be yours when you take charge. There’s no limit.
Except the limits you accept. There are ways of being and living joyously that many people have not experienced because they haven’t tried to yet. Many don’t know what is possible given their history. If you can’t conceive of it you won’t be able to live it. The Wright Brothers flew because they first imagined they could. If they didn’t conceive of it as possible they’d never have tried. Get it?
They imagined it. Entertained it. Got obsessed with it. They turned the idea, the dream, the goal into a reality. The transmuted the energy from internal to external. From within to without. They created an airplane that flew. It began as a thought, they thought was possible. From that possibility it became a reality. So, I write to encourage people to imagine bigger and better and to give good things a try.
Write your goals and dreams down. That’s the first step in making them real. The idea goes from inside your head to on paper. From there you can plan and elaborate. Writing it down is the first step. I write this blog every day. I am writing it down. I am making it happen. I am transmuting the energy and creating a new reality. All things can be celebrated. You must know that. So, I write it. I create it.
Sample the good life offers. Enjoy life. Dream as big as you can. Then dream bigger. I write this blog because I know when you help each other move forward to be happier, healthier and wealthier you improve and help yourself AND the world. By enriching others you enrich ourselves. Make magic and miracles each day. If you don’t someone else is. Miracles abound. You could enjoy them too.
Why miss out when you can create and attract good things too? Use your imagination. People miss or lose out. You will lose out too if you don’t use your imagination to make things better. As Reverend Ike was fond of saying, ‘You can’t lose with the stuff I use.’ Use it or lose it. Right? Celebrate everything and everything becomes a celebration. SO celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes
“Rex, I love your book! I just want to say thank you for who you are and how you are showing up and particularly for ‘Life On Your Terms.’ It is a powerful book that impacted me and people I have shared it with. They call me and say, ‘thank you!’ And I say, ‘thank Rex because he is a bad dude up in here, up in here.” Les Brown – Speaker
“Rex is absolutely brilliant and transparent. My go-to book for those I mentor who want to be happy and successful with their lives as they choose.” – Fred Van Lieu ‘The Water Doctor,’ Author
“One of the most transformative books I’ve ever read. This book is amazing! Rex provides a blueprint of simple tools that anyone can use to achieve what you desire. There are so many books out that claim to show you how to create the life you desire but end up being disappointing. This book actually does what it says. No frills. No New Age jargon. Just down-to-earth methods that work when you work them. It really is a breath of fresh air!” Ron Matthews
Get the book. Change your life using the principles and practices. Check it out now. Read it, enjoy it, and transform. Transform yourself and how you think, feel and behave to get Celebrate!
“A real life changer for me. Life on Your Terms is a must read! Rex has a way of writing his story so you feel you’re actually right there with him! I love his comeback story! I am changing my thinking and putting into practice what I’ve read. I see amazing and miraculous things already happening in my life as I follow his instructions! I bought this book first for my Kindle because I can read it anywhere but quickly realized I needed a hard copy to put in my Library! Thanks, Rex, for helping me change my life!” Katherine Young
“‘Life On Your Terms: Create The Life You Want’ provides practical advice that you can use today to transform your life with increasing success and abundance.” John Gray – Author
“A must read if you want to improve your life. This book will teach you how to control and direct your thoughts to live the life you’ve been dreaming of.” Chris Guajardo
“Since the mid to late 70’s I’ve been sharing how to improve your mindset, health, overall happiness and success by sharing principles and practices you can use to function better. You can more easily and effortlessly live fully feeling fulfilled and complete and still enjoy more. You can more readily and effortlessly create and attract what you desire and live a life by design and intention. And guess what?
The many things I have shared also have been shared through the centuries by mystics and other thought leaders. Today, we have science backing up what we’ve known and suggested all along. In my programs, here in this blog and in my book, I share numerous practices for adding novelty and becoming more flexible because it serves to make you healthier in spirit, mind, and body. In all areas.
In the early to mid 80s I along with colleagues provided practices and means for growing new neural pathways. Again, similar practices have been around for eons. At the time we spoke of growing new neural pathways and that the brain, like a muscle, improved with use and specific exercises or atrophied from lack of use or through negative or stressful events or uses. Science now says yes too.
In the early 80s I was captivated by studies, of which there were few by comparison, on the Placebo Effect and beliefs. It was demonstrated then that attitude is the number one predictor for success in all areas of your life. Many studies at first were devoted to health. Most science at the time said it was BS and dismissed helpings as the Placebo effect. They misunderstood. Most experts do at first.
Because when things run counter to our understanding there is dissonance and the tendency to define what is known. I was criticized by some, even in books, because I stated, our goal is to consciously apply the placebo effect. They called it mumbo jumbo. Back in the days there were a handful of studies today there are over 40+ thousand. We’re learning what we knew long ago, is valid and applies today.
So here is some more interesting news. All which I and others have spoken on long before some current popular thought leaders made their way to the top and before science began embracing the truths we taught. Some now say effective learning begins with accepting what neuroscience has to say about brain chemistry, neuroplasticity, habit formation, learning theories and more. FANTASTIC!
About time. So many of the things I shared in my work now are being taught so you can improve overall health and wellbeing, develop an optimistic and positive attitude AND improve brain function. At one time it was thought the brain was like a jar and once filled that was it. We know it is more like a jungle, living and changing and requiring care and nutrition in all forms. It’s like a muscle.
Use it or lose it. Use it well and benefit. Use it poorly and it’s a deficit. So, here is what they are now proposing for greater functioning of the hippocampus. Again, what they now proposed has been proposed for so long without the understanding of which specific regions of our anatomy might benefit. We said, greater brain or physical health. We didn’t always know WHAT specifically, but we knew.
Science now suggests there are some pain free (a basic tenet in all my work is you don’t have to suffer unless you really want to) techniques or practices you can start doing to improve your hippocampus function. This will help you absorb new information and recall easier and more efficiently to help you think and feel better, and overall improve in many ways. You don’t just think better.
Your brain’s divided into symmetrical parts, you’ve two hippocampi, one on each side, just above each ear. The hippocampus forms an integral part of the limbic system which supports a variety of functions, smelling, long-term memory, emotions and behaviors. I’m not going to go into how it works or more brain science but rather will share the practices I’ve been sharing that science says is good for you.
Some people don’t do anything until their trusted sources encourage them. They wait and evaluate and wait before acting. Others leap into opportunities. Acting fast, deciding quickly is desirable WHEN based on accurate information so you can make a quick BUT informed decision. To just leap without looking where you are leaping might not always work out so well. It could but I’ll let you decide. BE wise.
So how can you improve the functioning of your hippocampus? The number one way is what I have been saying all along. LEARN SOMETHING NEW! I share this almost all the time. ADD NOVELTY because your brain craves it. Science now says, when you learn something new, based on how the hippocampus works, you build new neural pathways and strengthen the ones that already exist.
Think of it like building blocks! Backed by University of Pittsburgh and Carnegie Mellon University. As one progresses from novice to expert, researchers found you engage in long-term learning AND new neural activity patterns were observed. This established a clear relationship between neural-patterns and new behavioral abilities.
Good to know and we were already doing and saying this decades AND even eons ago. I think it’s marvelous that research validates so much wisdom from the past. It’s awesome. NOW they are advocating doing things differently. I’ve said ADD NOVELTY since I began my work in the late 70’s. I learned so much from acting classes and teaching students I brought it to all my transformational work.
Do things differently. Take different routes to where you go. It’s said Bill Gates did this. He took a different route to and from work every day to stimulate his brain. Maybe it worked for him? Why? You see and experience different things and things differently. Listen to music you wouldn’t normally. Play different games. Watch different shows or movies. Read books that you wouldn’t otherwise.
Learn to play music or sing and dance. Use the non-dominant hand. Sleep with your head at the foot of the bed. Do puzzles and brain teasers. Shake it up. Break up your routines because you’ll spark new connections between nerve cells and generate new brain cells. Expand your awareness. Learn a new language. Shave with a different hand. Put your clothes on in different orders. Same with washing.
PHYSICAL EXERCISE. I’ve long encouraged people to walk, swim, bike, get some form of healthy exercise. Common sense, right? But also, to skip, jump, dance, and move. Move with enthusiasm. Have fun. delight and let go. Play as little children do. Hop, shake, roll down hills. Do somersaults, Spin like a dervish. Why? Because it activates the vestibular system which governs balance and spatial orientation.
It’s healthy. Most adults stand, sit or lie prone. As a kind we spent time bobbing up and down, hanging upside down, twirling and cartwheeling and more. It is good for us and as we grew older many abandoned those activities. Start doing them again. They’re essential for better health in all areas of mind, emotions and body. Studies now show exercise helps keep the brain running properly!
It can reduce dementia chances by 50% to have a regular exercise program. Too heavy? Bad knees? Walk in water. Hydrotherapy is low impact and marvelous. Do something to move more and feel better. EAT RIGHT AN HYDRATE PROPERLY. Eat nutritious, organic, if possible, mostly fresh fruits and vegetables. Increase these and lessen processed foods and junk. Eat fish. Wild caught salmon.
Mackerel, small tuna, sardines (the tinier the less mercury). Farmed fish tends to be questionable and best to avoid. The Omega-3 fatty acids found in fish boost the cellular structure and brain signaling. Studies have demonstrated that people who regularly eat fish have more efficient brains than those who don’t. This helps to protect against diseases like Alzheimer’s and dementia. Eat once a week.
If not more but once a week showed a 14% larger hippocampus in those who did eat fish once a week than those who did not. Easy enough to do. DRINK COFFEE, some say. It increases serotonin levels and is loaded with antioxidants BUT drink organic coffee only. Coffee and teas tend to be heavily laced with pesticides. Caffeine in coffee or tea is associated with less neuron loss in the hippocampus. PLUS…
It’s good for learning and improving memory. Remember, everything in moderation. In studies coffee has been shown to be anti-amyloidogenic. Amyloids are aggregates of proteins that are linked to the development of various diseases in humans.’ EAT BLUEBERRIES which can reduce DNA damage, prevent heart disease and are loaded with antioxidants. They also help brain and memory functions.
DARK CHOCOLATE 70% or better is an option if you don’t like coffee, fish or blueberries. Eating it releases dopamine, enhancing learning and memory. It can increase cerebral blood flow and promote synaptogenesis which is the formation of synapses between the neurons. It releases antioxidants. For adults 60-77 Harvard’s showed a 30% increase in cognitive abilities by drinking cocoa twice daily.
MEDITATE. There are countless studies proving the benefits of meditation on physical, emotional, mental and spiritual health and wellbeing AND that regular practice can cause the hippocampus to grow and enhance memory. There are numerous forms. Pick one and stick with it for at least 90 days. It may seem boring and that is okay. Anything worth doing is worth developing and getting better at.
If you can attend workshops and live events. You’ll be in different places with new people and have different experiences and learn new things. If you can’t attend, do online learning and programs. I offer both. Jump on in. With advances in technology, we are better connected and can meet up online. So, you never have to be alone if you don’t want to. You can learn and evolve wherever you are.
I share so much of this and more in my programs you’ll love the experiences from learning and growing and succeeding with me. I share so much more in my book, Life On Your Terms. Whatever you do, choose to act in your own best interests and begin implementing practices that promote health and wellness in spirit, mind, emotions, speech, actions, results and pocketbook. Be your own best advocate, friend, cheerleader, and coach. Add to your health and wealth in ways that delight you. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes
“Rex, I love your book! I just want to say thank you for who you are and how you are showing up and particularly for ‘Life On Your Terms.’ It is a powerful book that impacted me and people I have shared it with. They call me and say, ‘thank you!’ And I say, ‘thank Rex because he is a bad dude up in here, up in here.” Les Brown – Speaker
“Rex is absolutely brilliant and transparent. My go-to book for those I mentor who want to be happy and successful with their lives as they choose.” – Fred Van Lieu ‘The Water Doctor,’ Author
“One of the most transformative books I’ve ever read. This book is amazing! Rex provides a blueprint of simple tools that anyone can use to achieve what you desire. There are so many books out that claim to show you how to create the life you desire but end up being disappointing. This book actually does what it says. No frills. No New Age jargon. Just down-to-earth methods that work when you work them. It really is a breath of fresh air!” Ron Matthews
Get the book. Change your life using the principles and practices. Check it out now. Read it, enjoy it, and transform. Transform yourself and how you think, feel and behave to get Celebrate!
“A real life changer for me. Life on Your Terms is a must read! Rex has a way of writing his story so you feel you’re actually right there with him! I love his comeback story! I am changing my thinking and putting into practice what I’ve read. I see amazing and miraculous things already happening in my life as I follow his instructions! I bought this book first for my Kindle because I can read it anywhere but quickly realized I needed a hard copy to put in my Library! Thanks, Rex, for helping me change my life!” Katherine Young
“‘Life On Your Terms: Create The Life You Want’ provides practical advice that you can use today to transform your life with increasing success and abundance.” John Gray – Author
“A must read if you want to improve your life. This book will teach you how to control and direct your thoughts to live the life you’ve been dreaming of.” Chris Guajardo
