“You may or may not like the answer to how you can successfully handle a nasty person. However, if you put this into practice it will make your life so much easier. You’ll be able to spend more time doing what you love with the people who are important to you.

I have dealt with many in my life. One in particular plagued me for a couple decades. Interactions were always impossible, nasty, disruptive and would send me off into a head spin that could last for days and weeks. I dreaded the next encounter. I hated this person.

I used to feel like the infographic in this post. I dreaded encounters. I’d get really angry. I’d carry it with me day and night. It occupied my thoughts, stressed me out, made me feel bad. I wanted to get even, get an upper hand, turn the tables and win. I felt awful a lot.

You Can’t Move Forward Until You Let Go Forgive Self And Others

Then one day I decided to forgive the person, and myself, for everything. I decided I wanted to be free from all the horrible encounters and not let this person, or myself, bring me down. I forgave. I decided to be grateful for this person and all of it.

I determined that there must be a reason, even if there were none, for this person in my life. I decided this person was an alert system for me to examine myself, and learn from, and let go of my knee jerk reactions and negative thoughts, emotions and behaviors. I let go.

Was it easy? No, not really. It was necessary. It helped. It wasn’t like magic where everything was new and shiny and good. The person to this day engages in the same behaviors as always. I do not. I write this because I recently had a situation where we were together.

To Fly You Must Be Able To Leave The Earth – Transform Yourself

The person was as nasty, confrontative and difficult as ever. That’s a judgement, but I use it to illustrate. Nothing changed as far as I could tell in that person, or that person’s reaction to me. However, mine has. Once I forgave, appreciated and looked for lessons, it all did!

Even though the words and behaviors were what they always have been like, my response is different. Water rolls off a ducks back. Once I decided to let go and not let this person rain on my parade, or ruin my life’s party, everything has changed. Here’s my point.

It will always rain on someone’s picnic. Some things don’t seem to change. If you expect the world, or another person, to change then you live as a victim and get what you get. If you forgive, appreciate, learn lessons, let go and consider the person a blessing all changes.

Let Go Of The Attachment And Resistance – Keep The Lesson

I used to react and push back. I even instigated at times in order to preempt the encounter and gain an upper hand. Once I let go, I no longer counter with remarks or push back. I listen and understand it doesn’t apply to me. Whatever is said or done I can learn from.

I don’t take the bait. I don’t get hooked. I am free. I can speak without insult or anger. I can say, ‘oh, okay.’ I cannot make issue of the behaviors or hurtful words. I don’t resist. I am free to be me no matter what the other person is like. I can’t change that person.

I can improve myself. This ‘nasty’ person is actually a gift. This person has always been a gift. I didn’t always recognize or appreciate this. Now, I feel free. I have for many years. Whatever this person does isn’t about me. It is what it is. I am free. All good. Get it?

Forgiveness Is An Attribute Of The Strong – Forgive And Be Free

Everything changes when you stop resisting. Everything changes because you change. When I changed myself, even though circumstances didn’t change, I did. We may not be able to control the world or change it to our satisfaction but we can change positively.

Victor Frankl spent many years a prisoner in a concentration camp cell, but decided they could not imprison his mind. His mind was free though his body wasn’t. Many paralyzed people know this. You can too! Change yourself. Design your mind and your life. Create your best life ever. Stop being a victim. Then everything changes for you even when the world remains the same. This is why I’ve always said celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

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