“Because I write this blog and teach seminars and workshops, speak and keynote. I frequently get questions from those wanting to know if the law of attraction or positive thinking works. Sometimes, I get comments from people telling me how neither can work.

It is both sad and fascinating listening or reading their negative thoughts about thinking positive. Many people suffer because they don’t hear what they are thinking and saying. Many people THINK they think positive when they do not. Most of us are like this.

They say and think things such as, ‘it can’t work.’  ‘If it did everyone would be rich’.  ‘I tried it but got nowhere.’ ‘You are blaming the poor for being poor if you say they are responsible for their results.’  On and on. I wonder sometimes, do they not really hear themselves?

Whether You Think You Can Or You Think You Can’t You Are Right

I wonder IF and WHEN they could actually hear what they are expressing, if they would simply stop, and pay attention to what they are claiming. If they became a bit more aware might they not want to change their thinking to be more useful.

If you don’t want to think positive or you think the Law Of Attraction is crap so be it.  BUT why go out of your way to tell me or others? What is the point?  I know they are not attempting to rain on someone’s parade and they mean no disrespect.

Usually, they are really hoping for an answer that will transform their life. They protest loudly hoping someone will convince them otherwise. Not everyone of them do this, of course. There are those disappointed ones who want company for their misery. Still…

A Change In Awareness Leads To A Change In Perception

I believe, if they would just change their thinking, instead of expecting someone to answer with the right answer, they would be further ahead. I think that many desperately want to be proven wrong on the inside or they wouldn’t make such an issue of it.

Sometimes they write a message like,  ‘you are so unrealistic. you have no idea how hard it is.’ Or ‘You have no idea what I endure.’ Or ‘everybody would be successful if they did what you say’. I do agree with this whole heartedly and most, sadly, don’t do what I say.

Sometimes, I think some tough love is in order. I want to say, ‘Wait let me get out my violin. You have had it tough. You don’t think it would work. Keep doing whatever you are doing then if you think you found the way. Keep on going. No worries.’ Live and let live.

If You Always Do What You Always Did You’ll Get What You Got

Or in the words of Doctor Phil, ‘how’s that working for you?’ Obviously, it isn’t. So they launch into a tirade sometimes.  Sometimes, they are just afraid. Sometimes, they really are asking for the solution. However,  you wouldn’t know it by their actions.

People want change and, yet, are afraid to change. They want their cake and to eat it, too. I understand that, so do I. What I found works for me and countless others so I share it so you can make it work too. If you don’t want to, if you have your own way and path, go for it.

Share your way if it works well. That is fine. We can all get to where we want to get to, successfully, without trampling on others. I like it when every one wins. Yes, I’m aware every one winning isn’t the competitive way of predatory capitalism. It really is not.

Insanity Is Doing The Same Thing And Expecting Different Results

There does’t have to be a loser in this. Everyone can win. There IS enough for everyone to have. Sadly, in the world, it is not distributed for everyone to have. There are those who keep more than their fair share and restrict access for others. Yes, it sucks. It really sucks.

That doesn’t mean, positive thinking and the Law Of Attraction don’t work. It means there are changes we need to make and can work toward. We can positively change the world, person by person, as we focus on solutions to overcome the difficulties people face.

We won’t get their throwing in the towel. We CAN make lots of change being angry and hateful but that won’t necessarily bring us what we want. It might just bring us a whole lot of what we don’t want and what got us into these messes in the first place.

Birds Of A Feather Flock Together – Like Does Attract Like

We might be better off being clear about what we want to do that brings about positive change for ourselves and the world. Be clear and know what we want that takes us further along without harm, without discord and hate. If we want peace, being peaceful is first.

We don’t get peace bullying others. It doesn’t come from hate and name calling. It doesn’t come from limiting other’s access and depleting their resources to benefit us. It doesn’t come from thinking it is hopeless and impossible. It comes from peace!

Our thoughts and our actions determine what we get back. I never claim positive thinking or the Law Of Attraction is magical. I claim it is practical and based in the principle of cause and effect. I am not saying karma will get you either, as some people think it.

Thoughts Lead To Feelings – Feelings Lead To Behaviors

I am saying if we want a  better life for ourselves AND for others then we must do those things that more easily and readily bring it about. Our thoughts and feelings and behaviors ARE important. That is why I share what I share. Yes, others may not agree.

I believe if you want more good put good out there. If you want kindness returned to you be kind first. If you want a happier life manage your thoughts and your feelings. Be happy first. Be filled with gratitude. Live and enjoy. Then you WILL know it! Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes

What will you do today to make it marvelous?

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