“Today and a couple more blogs will be how to keep a cool head and heart when things don’t go the way you’d hope. First assess if it’s true the situation is off, or something is ‘wrong.’ It may appear that way, but all could be well. Perhaps or perhaps not but don’t make assumptions. Operating off wrong assumptions will take you off in directions you may not need to go.

Make as accurate an assessment as possible without getting bothered. Learn to stay cool in heated situations. Some people fall apart when things fall apart. Others rise to the occasion. Seek to be the latter. Learn to respond as an EMT or first responder might. Who needs help now? What needs to be done? Allocate resources and delegate when possible, to those qualified.

Don’t blame or complain. Don’t make excuses. Look into the issue but look for solutions rather than the problem or culprit. Why? Because backstage drama leaks onto the stage. One rotten apple spoils the bunch. Don’t allow yourself, others or the situation to become contaminated. Everything is an opportunity and a learning moment or teachable moment. Stay present.

DEVELOP THE POSITIVE ATTITUDE, MINDSET AND BELIEFS TO TRANSFORM YOURSELF

Stay positive and optimistic. Let your energy wrap around and positively affect the others who may be present. Lead by example. Walk your talk. Speak to others if necessary but without causing incident or insult. Everything can have a positive and good outcome for all if you reframe it as opportunity and lessons to learn and improve from. Think, it happened FOR a positive reason!

Good can always come from bad. People tend to look back on their worst moments and realize those moments were the steppingstones to where they are now. If you seek to find the good you can. If you buckle or give in to pressure or disappoint it will just delay the positive outcome. Don’t wallow. Collect yourself. You have inner resources, use them. You’ve resources around you.

Find and use them. You can get through this if you decide to get through this. Rise up when you fall. You’ve more strength going for you than you most likely realize, and this moment is where you can discover this. Appreciate what you are going through for that reason. Everything that happens may not be desirable, but you can benefit from having gone through it. Learn from it. Become better as a result. Celebrate it all. Celebrate everything!” Rex Sikes